Anger Depression Cycle

by Deb
(Pennsylvania)

I am a 33 yr old female. I have been depressed for the past 1 1/2 years and feel completely stuck in my life. The idea of moving forward is terrifying to me.

I have begun to isolate and simply go through the motions to get by. What I have found is that I am afraid of expressing the anger that I have carried around for years regarding my parents' alcoholism and my father's death. I have suppressed it for so long that it now has a life of its own and my fear of it coming out keeps me completely stuck.

When I do allow myself to feel it, it is overwhelming and scary. I want to move on with my life, but even after years of therapy I'm still stuck in this cycle of anger, depression and anxiety. How do I move on?

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hello Deb, and thanks for telling your story here. I think you're on the right track with your thinking process. I will try to help.

I think you will find that this page is pretty much designed for you, with what you're dealing with. You will find a step by step process described there, with other resources to help along the way. Be sure and do the three journaling processes described on this page, even if you don't do anything else.

These tools are highly effective Deb, but only if you use them. You have good reasons for your anger, and its story needs to be told. You're going to feel so much better when you get your feelings expressed.

Do this for the good soul that is you.

My very best to you,

Dr. DeFoore

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