An Angry Person

by Lana
(Scottsville NY)

Hi, my name is Lana. I'm 38 yrs old. I've been struggling with my anger problem since I was a little girl.

I get like bouts where I'll pick out any situation and hold onto it until I explode. Then I get angry and it's like the adrenaline rush kicks in and I purposely say mean, hurtful things to my boyfriends. It's ruined every relationship I've been in.

When its all over, I feel like a million bucks. But I feel so guilty too. Then I'm good until I do it again.

I have every excuse in the book. I use power and control to make me feel better. And I'm truly scared for myself. I want to really heal from this. I'm also a recovering addict as well.

I blame everything on all the wrong people. And I am now realizing that the problem is in myself.

Response from Dr. DeFoore

Hi Lana. It is so great to hear that you are in recovery from your addiction, and willing to take full responsibility for your anger problem. That puts you way ahead of the game. And that fear you have about yourself--that's because you're smart and healthy enough to know that things need to change.

Here's what I want you to do:

First, do the journaling exercises on this page every single day, no matter what. There are three types of exercises, and it's very important that you do all three. After you run out of stuff in the Trauma Writing part, just keep going with the Anger Journaling and the Goodfinding. This will really help you--but only if you do it!