Who Is That Angry Man?
Is It You, Or Someone Close To You?

The Healing Anger Newsletter (skip to where the new issue starts) brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this ezine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which is now offered as an eLearning course you can take from home! It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! May 1, 2010 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #024 Who Is That Angry Man? What Is Really Going On Inside And What Can You Do? Contents of this newsletter What's New on AngerManagementResource.com? Who Is The Angry Man On The Inside? How To Deal With An Angry Man Are You The Angry Man? Is It Time For Forgiveness?

What's new on the web site? Twelve new web pages--check them out! Here's The Table Of Contents Go to the bottom of this page and you will see the titles of all of the new pages built since the last issue (April) -- and here are a few of them... Learn about bio feedback for emotional control, managing anger with a positive focus, dealing with a bad temper and anger management training for professionals. Discover how to get even without making things worse, deal with insults, and treat generalized anxiety disorder with anger release methods. Also find out about low self esteem and anger, and tough love and healthy anger. And, finally, if you haven't already seen it, watch Dr. DeFoore's anger management movie (10 minutes long). Who Is The Angry Man On The Inside? There is always fear behind anger, but most angry men don't know they're afraid. Let's look at what is really going on behind the scenes within an angry man: The angry man feels helpless, powerless and afraid. That's why he has to make "so much noise." Angry men are really soft, warm and sensitive inside, just like the rest of us. They have been hurt, and their anger is to protect them from being hurt again--only problem is that it doesn't work most of the time. The angry man has a good heart, and wants things to be good, just like everybody else. He's just gotten confused into thinking that his anger is going to get him what he wants, and it won't. Take a few moments and see if you can figure out the pain and fear inside the angry man you know. If he is healthy enough, he might even be able to tell you! How To Deal With An Angry Man In most cases, the answer is to love him or leave him. If the relationship is salvageable, love is your best method of dealing with an angry man. But it has to be tough love, or you could end up being a "doormat." Let's look at some other things you can do: Assess the situation. Are you in an abusive relationship? If so, do you need to leave, love or let go? Are there children involved? If so, they have to be your first priority. You need to develop your own healthy anger, so that you are taking care of yourself and not just being a victim. The most important thing here is that your well being has to be your top priority. Don't let your low self esteem keep you from taking care of yourself. It doesn't matter how much you love the angry man, you still have to love yourself more. Are You The Angry Man? If you are, I congratulate you for being here! Why? Because many angry men are too proud, afraid or angry to take responsibility for their problem. So, you're here, so let's look at some things you can do: Learn about empathy and reflective listening. Try these communication skills for conflict resolution, so that you have some healthy ways to express your emotions. Use these journaling exercises to heal your own past trauma and begin some healthy journaling processes. Decide what kind of person you want to be. Let your good heart make your decisions for you. Believe in your own goodness, and be a friend to yourself. The problem might be in your thinking! Just to be sure, learn to think right now, and you will overcome your anger for sure! You can see here that we're not telling you how to change the other person. That's just not possible. Your freedom and responsibility is in understanding and changing yourself. Is It Time To Forgive? This excellent CD program is entitled, Love, Anger And Forgiveness, and is available either in CD format or as an MP3 audio download. It will help you understand how to move from anger to forgiveness, and back to love, which is where it all started in the first place! Consider the time, energy (and maybe money) you are investing here as an investment in yourself, that will serve you and everyone you love for the rest and the best of your life. P.S. Why not make the rest of your life the best of your life? You can get started right now with Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger and Wiser. P.P.S. Did you know that I offer telephone (including Skype) counseling around the world? That's right, from the comfort of your home, you can get professional counseling from me, Dr. William DeFoore. Contact us now to schedule a session! Next Issue What Is Tough Love? And How Do You Learn It?

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