The Healing Anger Newsletter (skip to where the new issue starts) brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this ezine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which is now offered as an eLearning course you can take from home! It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! September 1, 2010 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #028 How To Deal With The Silent Treatment And Is It Always Wrong? Contents of this newsletter What's New on AngerManagementResource.com? What Is The Silent Treatment? Is The Silent Treatment Always Wrong? What Do You Do About The Silent Treatment? Healthy Anger And Your Health

What's new on the web site? A new Facebook page and seven new web pages--check them out! New Facebook Page giving you all of the latest stories, new pages and blog entries from Dr. DeFoore and visitors like you. To follow us on Facebook, just go to Anger Managment Resource by Dr. William DeFoore and click on "Like" at the top of the page, and you'll get all of the updates! Also, be sure to "Like" us on our home page--just click on the thumbs up symbol. You can also follow us on Twitter! Here's The Table Of Contents Go to this page and you will see the titles of all of the new pages as they are added during the month (newest pages are at the bottom of the list)-- and here is a list of the ones added since last month (below). Learn about Passive Aggressive Personality and how it is not permanent, How To Deal With Jealousy and Anger Management For Children that really works for the long haul. Find out how to understand Anxiety Attacks, where they come from and what to do about them, and how Child Abuse can contribute to adult anger management problems. Finally, learn about Alcohol Abuse and anger management, and how to identify the early warning signs of alcoholism, concluding with information on some highly effective Anger Management Classes. What Is The Silent Treatment? Most of us have experienced this, either because someone was doing it to us or we were doing it to them. Take a look at this page to learn more about this problem. Here are some ways of getting clear about what the silent treatment really is: It basically means you're not talking, shutting someone out or even ignoring them. Between spouses, it usually means just saying the "bare minimum" of what needs to be said. It can involve not smiling, avoiding eye contact, or pretending the other person is not even there. Sometimes it is intentional, and sometimes not--either way it hurts on the receiving end. If the silent treatment is used intentionally to hurt someone, it will certainly be more damaging to the relationship. When it is unintentional, however, it might be the best you can come up with in certain situations. Is The Silent Treatment Always Wrong? The answer is no, it's not always wrong. If you're: Being quiet to keep from blowing up Not talking because you can't think of anything helpful to say and everything you do think of is hurtful At a point where all of the talking seems to just make things worse then maybe being quiet is the perfect choice for a while. However, if you're: Deliberately not talking to or ignoring your partner to "drive them crazy" Shutting your partner out and acting like they don't exist as an effort to punish them Playing a game of "silent warfare" filled with glares, grunts, and other non-verbal negative communication then you're damaging your relationship and ultimately making things worse for yourself as well. What Do You Do About The Silent Treatment? Start by checking out this entire page on The Silent Treatment. At its best, the silent treatment is simply a matter of not knowing how to communicate--in other words, you don't know what to say, so you don't talk. At its worst, the silent treatment is a deliberate effort to avoid communication--either way, it's about communication. If there was not some kind of hurt, fear or anger going on, there would be no need to shut down. So, the solution to the problem is healthy communication. A key component of healthy communication is empathy--learn empathy skills now. If you're stuck in a painful silence, it's time for conflict resolution. Learn effective communication skills. It may be time to give yourself the silent treatment. What I mean is, get a little more intimate with yourself. If you're giving or receiving the silent treatment in your relationships, that might be reflecting some things going on within you. And it might be time to learn about healthy anger and how to express it! Check out our audio progam below... Healthy Anger And Your Health This excellent CD program is entitled, Healthy Anger And Your Health, and is available either in CD format or as an MP3 audio download. It will help you understand and express your anger in healthy ways, which is good for you--body, mind and soul--and all of your relationships Consider the time, energy (and maybe money) you are investing here as an investment in yourself, that will serve you and everyone you love for the rest and the best of your life. P.S. Why not make the rest of your life the best of your life? You can get started right now with Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger and Wiser. P.P.S. Did you know that I offer telephone (including Skype video phone) counseling around the world? That's right, from the comfort of your home, you can get professional counseling from me, Dr. William DeFoore. Contact us now to schedule a session! Next Issue Anger Management Classes

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