The Healing Anger Newsletter (skip to where the new issue starts) brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this ezine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which is now offered as an eLearning course you can take from home! It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! January 1, 2010 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #021 Understand And Deal With Narcissism: And Learn To Love Yourself Contents of this newsletter What's New on AngerManagementResource.com? What Is Narcissism? How To Deal With Narcissism What Is Healthy Self Love? Learn To Love Yourself

What's new on the web site? Four new web pages--check them out! Emotional Abuse This web page will help you identify understand and deal with emotional abuse. Self Love Learn what it really means to love yourself in a healthy way. Overcoming Jealousy One of the biggest causes of anger is jealousy--learn how to conquer the "green-eyed monster" so it does not destroy your relationships. Are You In An Abusive Relationship? Figure out what to do--whether to leave, or stay and try to fix it. What Is Narcissism? Narcissism is a condition where you or someone else is "all about you." A narcissist literally thinks the world owes them...everything! And that can cause a lot of anger. Rather than go into more detail here, I will refer you to my web page on Narcissism, where you will get plenty of detail on the topic. For now, just be aware that a little bit of narcissism can be a good thing! And excessive narcissism is a nightmare--especially if you're in a relationship with the narcissist! Plus, it's no fun for the person with narcissism either. Extreme cases are called "Narcissistic Personality Disorder." What To Do About Narcissism First of all, keep in mind that a little narcissism can be a good thing. Many people have a hard time feeling good about themselves, which is not a problem for the narcissist. If you're the one with narcissism: Take a totally honest inventory of your strengths and weaknesses. Ask those closest to you to do the same. Make a plan for working on your shortcomings and building on your strengths. Make a list of all of the people you look down on, the people that you don't think are as good, smart or worthy as you. Then list all of the strengths and positive attributes of those people. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist: Focus on yourself. Make a full list of your own positive and negative qualities. Make sure you have your own feet on the ground, and that you fully appreciate your own attributes. Find the "distance from which you can love" the narcissist in your life. If you find yourself irritated and angry at this person, back up until you feel comfortable, and can let that person be. Do not try to fix or change the narcissist. Just focus on yourself, be the best person you can be, and find the distance from which you can be comfortable with that person. Learn more on our web page about narcissism. Learn Healthy Self Love Narcissistic Personality Disorder results from way too much self love, and low self esteem results from not enough self love. You want to have just the right amount. I will give you an overview here, and you can go to the full page on self love to get more information. Decide to become your own best friend. Your best friend sees your strengths and your weaknesses, and loves you. Try to see yourself the same way. Make a daily list of what you appreciate about yourself. Keep your focus on the good things. This will really help you. Picture yourself looking, feeling and acting like you want to. Every day, picture and imagine yourself being strong, happy, smart and kind throughout your day. Be sure and check out the full description of self love on this page. Most importantly, don't give up on yourself. You can become the good person you want to be, if you set your mind to it and never give up. All of the resources you need are on this AngerManagementResource.com web site. Learn To Love Yourself In A Healthy Way This excellent CD program is entitled, Nurturing Your Inner Child: Affirmations And Visualization For Emotional Healing, and is available either in CD format or as an MP3 audio download. Learn these valuable tools of self love, or your money back! You have nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Consider the time, energy (and maybe money) you are investing here as an investment in yourself, that will serve you and everyone you love for the rest and the best of your life. P.S. Why not make the rest of your life the best of your life? You can get started right now with Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger and Wiser. P.P.S. Did you know that I offer telephone counseling around the world? That's right, from the comfort of your home, you can get professional counseling from me, Dr. William DeFoore. Contact us now to schedule a session! Next Issue Overcoming Jealousy Don't Let It Destroy Your Relationship

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