Believe In Yourself
As Your Own Best Anger Management Resource

The Healing Anger Newsletter (skip to where the new issue starts) brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this ezine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which is now offered as an eLearning course you can take from home! It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! December 1, 2010 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #031 Believing In Yourself Is The Best Thing You Can Do For Anger Management Contents of this newsletter What's New on AngerManagementResource.com? How Does It Help To Believe In Yourself? How Do I Do It? Revised--Nurturing Your Inner Child

What's new on the web site? New stories and three new web pages--check them out! Visit Our Facebook Page giving you all of the latest stories, new pages and blog entries from Dr. DeFoore and visitors like you. To follow us on Facebook, just go to Anger Managment Resource by Dr. William DeFoore and click on "Like" at the top of the page, and you'll get all of the updates! You can also follow us on Twitter (that is, if you are a "twitterer.") This is similar to the Facebook page, so you probably don't need to do both. Here's The Table Of Contents Go to this page and you will see the titles of all of the new pages as they are added during the month (newest pages are at the bottom of the list)-- and here is a list of the ones added since last month (below). Learn about anger management games for children, (a big help to parents), an excellent online anger management course and this new page on attention deficit disorder in adults. Check out the latest visitor stories with titles like, How Do I Know When It Is Enough?, I Used To Be A Happy Funny Person And I've Become A Manhater, and My Anger Erupts And Then Goes Away As Fast As It Came. How Does It Help To Believe In Yourself? How you feel about yourself is the heart of the matter, the centerpoint, the beginning place to your decision making, your emotional control, and the quality of all of your relationships. Believing in yourself does not mean you think you're perfect, or better than anyone else. If you were riding a mule in the Grand Canyon, it would help to trust that mule to be sure-footed. Believing in yourself is like that--you just decide that there is a goodness and a steadiness in you that will get you through. Here are some ways it helps: It eases the anxiety of self-doubt and low self esteem. Believing in yourself gives you a solid foundation to stand on, better known as self confidence, determination and courage. It becomes your "fall-back plan." It's where you go when the going gets tough. In my counseling career, the folks I've seen who have the hardest time are those filled with self-doubt and/or shame about themselves. When you believe in yourself, it will be easier for you to believe in others, and it can strengthen your spiritual faith as well. If you doubt yourself, or just feel bad about who you are, you'll be more irritable, less tolerant of others and more critical of them as well. I think you can see how this adds to anger problems, and how believing in yourself can help you to stay more calm and manage all of your emotions more successfully. How Do I Do It? Okay, let's look at some ways you can start right now to believe in yourself, increase your self-confidence, and manage your emotions better in the process: First and foremost, remove the barriers to self love and self esteem--anything that might cause you to feel shame. The Nurturing Your Inner Child CD program is designed for exactly that. Take a moment and remember all of the times you tried to do the right thing. Lots of those, right? That's because you're a good person. Now think of all of those times you did something you felt bad about. The reason you felt bad is because that's not who you are. We are all capable of doing unwise and destructive things, but it never feels good when we do, because our hearts are good. Think about what you really want in life--it's good, right? That's because that wanting comes from the heart of who you are, and who you are is good. Believing in yourself is nothing less than accepting that you are an imperfect human being, trying to do the right thing, having some successes along the way. Believe in yourself simply because it is a good, practical idea. Don't wait any longer, just make the decision to do it now. These positive journaling processes will help. Learn To Love Yourself At The Deepest Possible Level I have just finished completely revising and updating the Nurturing Your Inner Child program, and you will find that the guided visualization, affirmation and relaxation will help you tremendously toward your goal of managing your anger and believing in yourself as a basically good person with a good heart. Consider the time, energy (and maybe money) you are investing here as an investment in yourself, that will serve you and everyone you love for the rest and the best of your life. P.S. Why not make the rest of your life the best of your life? You can get started right now with Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger and Wiser. P.P.S. Did you know that I offer telephone (including Skype video phone) counseling around the world? That's right, from the comfort of your home, you can get professional counseling from me, Dr. William DeFoore. Contact us now to schedule a session! Next Issue Why Is The Inner Child Still Around?