The Healing Anger Newsletter (skip to where the new issue starts) brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this ezine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which is now offered as an eLearning course you can take from home! It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! May 1, 2011 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #036 The Battered Wife Syndrome And What To Do About It Contents of this newsletter What's New on AngerManagementResource.com? How Did It Get This Way? How Do You Get Out Of The Syndrome? Sacred Roles In Marriage

What's new on the web site? Lots of opportunities and new visitor stories--check them out! Visit Our Facebook Page giving you all of the latest updates from Dr. DeFoore and visitors like you. To follow us on Facebook, just go to Anger Management Resource by Dr. William DeFoore and click on "Like" at the top of the page--or, follow us on Twitter! Visit Goodfinding.com, Dr. DeFoore's other web site. Find lots of positive, upbeat perspectives to help you with your anger management, and sign up for the Goodfinding Newsletter. Anger often comes from keeping a very negative focus--and here's your antidote! Two new web pages! One, with the same topic as this newsletter, Battered Wife Syndrome Doesn't Have To Be The End Of The Road. Learn how the addictive cycle of abuse gets started, how you can get stuck in it, and how to get out and begin the healing. The other new page is Parenting Tips For Angry And ADHD Kids, explaining how these problems develop and what good parents like you can do about it. Here Are The Latest Stories contributed by visitors just like you. Go to this page and you will see the titles of all of the new submissions that have been added during the month. Be sure and read A Little Aloof And A Lot Of Anger Bottled, This story from a good woman who wants to stop hurting her family, and Divorced And Confused Emotionally. Feel free to comment on any of these pages and offer your support to these good souls reaching out for help. How Did It Get This Way? It all started with love. Nobody gets into a battered wife syndrome (as a victim or abuser) unless there was love somewhere along the line. The abuse usually starts slowly, and builds over time. Other times, it is there from the beginning. Let's look at how the process usually gets started: There's a whole lot of love, and it quickly turns into attachment. The abuser is controlling, wanting to contain and possess the victim. Attachment, control and possessiveness destroy love, even though they come from love. Next, the abuser starts feeling helpless and powerless in their efforts to completely control the victim. Physical abuse, along with verbal and emotional abuse, usually come out of these feelings of helplessness and powerlessness. So, why doesn't the battered wife/girlfriend/spouse leave the relationship? Hope, love and the hope of love returning. Also commitment to marriage vows, religious convictions, fear of the divorce process, etc. What is the solution? Good question...let's look at some possible answers. How Do You Get Out Of The Syndrome? Did you look at the cycle diagram at the top of this newsletter? Well, the way out of the syndrome is to break that cycle. Here are some cycle breakers: Get yourself into a physically safe place. There are battered women's shelters in every major city, created just for you and your children to find safety. You've got to love yourself enough to protect yourself from the abuse. In other words, you have to love yourself more than you "love" the abuser. You need to recognize that what you have with this person who is hurting you is not love. It may be attachment, and a dysfunctional type of passion, but it is certainly not healthy love. You have to decide that you are worthy of respect, and that you will not stay with anyone who does not respect you. If your spouse is willing, you can get a copy of the book Getting The Love You Want by Harville Hendrix, read it together and do all of the exercises in the back to heal your relationship and create lasting love. Most important of all, do not give up on yourself! Learn about nurturing your inner child so that you will start taking care of yourself, first and foremost, from here on. Sacred Roles In Marriage Dr. DeFoore's audio CD program entitled, Sacred Roles In Marriage: Keys To Creating Fantastic Relationships will give you great information, techniques and encouragement with this challenging problem. Listen to free previews, buy the CD, or download to listen immediately, with a 100% money back guarantee! P.S. Why not make the rest of your life the best of your life? You can get started right now with Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger and Wiser. P.P.S. Did you know that I offer telephone (including Skype video phone) counseling around the world? That's right, from the comfort of your home, you can get professional counseling from me, Dr. William DeFoore. Contact us now to schedule a session! Next Issue The Best Anger Management Techniques Of All

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