Who Is That Angry Man?
Is It You, Or Someone Close To You?

The Healing Anger Newsletter (skip to where the new issue starts) brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this ezine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which is now offered as an eLearning course you can take from home! It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! April 1, 2010 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #023 Passive Aggressive Behavior: How To Deal With It Contents of this newsletter What's New on AngerManagementResource.com? The Opposite Of Passive Is Not Aggressive Are You Passive Aggressive? Is It Someone Else? A Four CD Program To Heal Passive Aggressive Behavior

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What's new on the web site? Thirteen new web pages (I've been busy!) Check them out! Here's The Table Of Contents Go to the bottom of this page and you will see the titles of all of the new pages built since the last issue (March) -- and here are a few of them... Learn about the angry man, the angry woman, angry parents and how teen violence is a cry for help. Overcome depression by learning about early depression warning signs, types of depression caused by anger, and treatments for depression. Also find out how to deal with the silent treatment, temper tantrums. And, for good measure, throw in a few stress management tips. The Opposite Of Passive Is Not Aggressive The opposite of passive is active! The idea is to take effective action, rather that hiding, pretending and quietly resenting. Passive aggressive behavior hurts everyone, and it's not honest. We're going for honesty and integrity here, which means being straight-forward, direct and respectful. Here are some thoughts to consider about passive aggressive behavior: You will never get what you want being passive aggressive. This kind of dishonest behavior is not connected with your good heart or who you really are. Your relationships will all get worse as long as you stay involved in passive aggressive behavior. There is unhealthy anger behind all passive aggressive tendencies--read on to learn how to make your anger healthy! Are You Passive Aggressive? How would you know for sure? It's a little tricky, because passive aggressive behavior is usually subconscious. Here's how you figure out if you're passive aggressive: Do you often have anger, frustration or resentment that you do not express? Are there people close to you that you're angry at--but you've never told them? Do you find yourself saying things like, "I was only kidding" "I didn't mean anything by it" or "You're too sensitive" a lot of the time? Are other people angry at you a lot, but you don't know why? If you answered "yes" to more than one of these, chances are that you have some passive aggressive tendencies. Another thing you can do is just ask someone close to you if they think you're passive aggressive. Basically, it means you say and do things that hurt and bother others, but you're not really aware of it and feel like you're "innocent of all charges." Is It Someone Else That Is Passive Aggressive? Being in a relationship with someone who is passive aggressive can be extremely frustrating. Here are some things you can do (this is a preview from the new passive aggressive page: Learn about empathy and reflective listening. These can sometimes be helpful in dealing with indirect or sideways anger. Try these communication skills for conflict resolution, and see if your friend or partner is willing to try them with you. Focus on the positive aspects of the other person. Use these positive journaling exercises to help you with that. Sometimes, when you believe the best of someone, they will start to change right before your eyes. Stay focused on yourself and your own chosen direction. These relationship quotes and this relationship advice will help you. You can see here that we're not telling you how to change the other person. That's just not possible. Your freedom and responsibility is in understanding and changing yourself. Heal Passive Aggressive Behavior This excellent CD program is entitled, Anger: Deal With It Before It Deals With You, and is available either in CD format or as an MP3 audio download. It deals with anger from every angle, and leaves no stone unturned. Consider the time, energy (and maybe money) you are investing here as an investment in yourself, that will serve you and everyone you love for the rest and the best of your life. P.S. Why not make the rest of your life the best of your life? You can get started right now with Elegant Aging: Growing Deeper, Stronger and Wiser. P.P.S. Did you know that I offer telephone counseling around the world? That's right, from the comfort of your home, you can get professional counseling from me, Dr. William DeFoore. Contact us now to schedule a session! Next Issue Who Is That Angry Man? Is It You Or Someone Close To You?

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