The Healing Anger Newsletter brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this e-zine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which I highly and enthusiastically endorse. It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! November 1, 2008 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #006 Contents of this newsletter What's new on AngerManagementResource.com? Tips For Healing Anger In Your Home Ideas For Healing Anger At Work Feeling Good All Of The Time--general tips and techniques for building and strengthening your joy, love and compassion--the best possible antidote to anger! Anger Management Techniques--this page features Anger Management Techniques: a single CD program that gives you powerful, tried-and-true techniques for healing your anger on an everyday and ongoing basis.

What's happening on the web site? Three pages for you to review--check them out! Healthy Anger Info & CDs--a whole page devoted to helping you to understand and create healthy anger in your relationships. What's more, you will find tips and techniques for improving your health and avoiding illness by being emotionally healthy. Children Anger Management: For Children Who Get Too Angry--learn what is behind children's anger, and what you can do about it! The causes include neglect of basic needs, unhealthy role modeling and various types of abuse. You can be a part of the solution, and champion the healing a child in your life! Anger Quotes: Helpful Insights on Anger and Anger Management--here you will find quotes on the definition of anger, anger as protection, suppression of anger and how anger relates to love. Anger Management Tips For Your Home Your home is very important! It is supposed to be your safe haven, your place of recuperation and rest--but all too often it becomes a battleground for too many people. Here are some things you can do: These Anger Management Techniques are a good place to start. Focus on what you love and appreciate about every member of your family, including yourself. I know that might be hard if you're really mad--and that's why it works so well! When you are successful at remembering what you appreciate about someone, it gets hard to stay mad at them. When anger does come up, look for the pain and fear that is behind it, and try to address that. For example, a mother was having trouble with her daughter being cruel to her younger siblings. So, I suggested she say, "That really hurts when you act that way. You must be hurting too, or you wouldn't be doing this. We need to talk and spend some time together so that I can figure out what is bothering you. This cruelty and unkindness is unacceptable in our home." Then, the mother needs to spend one-on-one time with the daughter to understand her pain and fear that is causing her anger and cruelty. Create consistent, reliable structure that makes sense. Families that eat together, for example, are generally healthier physically and psychologically. Consistent bedtimes, coming home from work times, etc. also provide a sense of stability for family members who are emotionally unstable. If it works at all for your belief system, attend worship services in the church of your choice. It has been found consistently that families that attend religious services regularly are more stable and emotionally healthy. Keep in mind that no one of these techniques is enough alone--especially if someone is having big anger problems. All of them together, however, will definitely help! Anger Management Tips For The Workplace As you know, many people get angry at work, usually for very good reasons. For example, you may be a victim of discrimination or some other type of abuse. You may be overlooked for a promotion, picked on or even sexually harrassed. Of course, it's also possible that you get angry at work without good reason--the reason might be coming from home or your personal history. Either way, you don't want your anger to cost you your job in these difficult economic times! Here are some ideas about what you can do to keep your angry healthy at work: If you think you might be facing a workplace violence situation, either from you or someone else, act immediately--go to this web page and learn what you can do to prevent catastrophe or loss of life. Find ways to feel good and have fun while at work. Take lunch breaks, share a joke with a co-worker, put plants and family pictures in your workspace, for a few basic ideas. The idea is, the more positive emotions you experience, the less anger you will have--or at least you might be able to keep it from being as big. Keep in mind that you are a good person, with a good heart. If that wasn't true, you would not even be taking the time to read this newsletter. Say positive, comforting things to yourself about yourself. Anger often comes from low self-worth, self-doubt, guilt or even self-loathing. So, it follows that if you can be "your own best friend" instead of "your own worst enemy," you will be much better at managing your anger. If these ideas seem to be too lightweight or not strong enough for your situation, you may need anger management counseling, or you might want to read these books or listen to these CDs. Tips for Everyday Life This business of managing anger is not just that--managing anger. It is a matter of learning how to create the alternatives to anger, specifically: Happiness--for no particular reason Appreciation--of what is good, right and working, right now. There is always a lot that is already what you want. When you shift your focus to that, you will automatically become less angry, and move closer to a feeling of contentment. Acceptance--of those things that "set you off" or "push your buttons." Forgiveness--this is something you do for yourself, not for the person you are forgiving. They don't have to earn it--you forgive because it is good for you to forgive. Old anger becomes toxic to your body and mind, and forgiveness is your detox program. Learn more on our love, anger and forgiveness page. You might want to learn the Hawaiian technique called "Ho'oponopono." It is basically a technique where you 1.) Focus on the your inner creative spirit that is the very best of who you are, and 2.) Speak to that part of you, saying, "I love you. I'm sorry. Forgive me. Thank you." This is a powerful approach and can produce amazing results if practiced regularly. You can learn more in Joe Vitale's book, Zero Limits. Remember--that it takes more guts, more strength and more power to be kind and compassionate and do the right thing than it does to be angry and attack. You get angry because you don't like feeling like a helpless vicitim to situations around you, but your anger only makes things worse. By having the courage to be kind and compassionate and work toward a solution, you are doing your part to make things better, thereby easing your anger and improving the situation. One of the places where anger can show up really strong is at school. I'm not going to go into a lot of detail here, because you'll find all you need to know on this page about understanding and preventing school violence. Everything listed above will help for dealing with anger at school as well as at home and work. Next Issue Your Anger and Your Money How Your Emotional Health Affects Your Financial Wealth

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