The Healing Anger Newsletter brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this e-zine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which I highly and enthusiastically endorse. It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! January 1, 2009 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #008 Contents of this newsletter What's happening on AngerManagementResource.com? What Do You Expect In Your Marriage? What Are Your Priorities In Your Marriage? What Roles Do You Play In Your Marriage? Expectations In Marriage Audio CD program

What's happening on the web site? Three pages for you to review--check them out! Dealing With Anger In Marriage--a whole page devoted to helping you to understand and deal with anger in your marriage and other relationships. You will also find a highly effective conflict resolution process that you can copy, print and use right now to work out your anger issues in any relationship! Intermittent Explosive Disorder: How To Know If You or Your Partner Have An Anger Disorder--intermittent explosive disorder is a serious diagnosis, and most people with anger issues do not have it. This page will help you figure out if it applies to you or someone you know. School Violence: Ever since the days of Columbine, we have all wanted to do what we can to prevent school violence. This page will help you address this problem from the perspective of parents, victims, teachers and school officials. You can make a difference! What Do You Expect In Your Marriage? Whether you know it or not, you had expectations when you got married, or you have expectations about the marriage you want. If you don't know what those expectations are, you can't be in charge of your anger! A big cause of anger is unmet expectations. Here are some of the things you did expect: Love--that is the basis for all marriages, except perhaps for those based on religious, cultural, political or economic perspectives Companionship--we all need that connection, and companionship gets us throught the cold, dark nights and painful times Children--while this doesn't apply to all marriages, it is a major desire for many people. When couples have differences about having children or how to raise them, major problems can result. Romance and sexual intimacy--this is one of the defining points of a marriage, and we all expect this to be part of our relationship. It doesn't always work out that way, unfortunately. Learn how to create a great sexual relationship with your partner by listening to this CD or audio download. Fidelity--naturally, we expect our partner not to cheat on us. Partnership--we expect our spouse to be a help-mate and to do her/his share in the business of living, finances, home and child care. When any of these primary expectations are not met, major problems result. And that's just the beginning... Many of us have expectations we don't even know about, like... He will earn all of the income and she won't have to worry about that She will do all of the housework and he won't have to worry about that She will do all of the childrearing, and he can just be the sometimes dad and do only what he wants to do He will always want sex, and she won't want it She will always be available for sex, whenever he wants it I think you get the picture here. Some of our expectations are healthy and normal, and some of them may be unrealistic and unhealthy, based on our past and not who our partner is in the present. It is very important that you know your own expectations, and be able to talk to your partner about them. Preview this CD program on Expectations In Marriage to learn more. What Are Your Priorities In Your Marriage? We can get pretty mixed up with our priorities. You can get married to work, TV, video games, your friends, sports, and a whole lot of things that take you away from your partner and a great marriage. Read this article on boundaries to get a clear picture of what your priorities need to be. Basically, you need to be committed to: Your own health and happiness--if you don't have that, you don't have anything to offer. The trick is to do this in such a way that it doesn't hurt or take away from anyone else on an ongoing basis. Your role in your relationship--you are totally responsible for the kind of husband or wife you are. If you're a lousy husband or wife, it's not your spouse's fault. Of course it really, really helps if both of you are committed to being the best spouse you can be. More about roles below. The relationship--not the other person. You are totally responsible for what you bring to your relationship, but you are not totally responsible for the happiness of your partner--that's their job. What Roles Do You Play In Your Marriage? This is something that many people just don't think about, and yet it is extremely important. For example, in a Magnificent Marriage both partners play the roles of: Friend Supporter Lover Companion Ally Leader/teacher Follower/student Playmate Help-mate Co-parent Champion Learn more in this highly informative CD program/audio download: Sacred Roles In Marriage, which you can preview here. Expectations In Marriage: Healthy Ways to Deal With Anger and Disappointment In Loving Relationships This dynamic and informative program will put you way ahead of the game in creating a great marriage! Follow along with Dr. DeFoore as he tells you how to get in touch with your expectations, manage your anger, and create lasting love and romance in your relationship! Get your copy now of this excellent program, your satisfaction guaranteed! Next Issue Teen Anger Management How To Understand and Help Teens With Their Anger

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