The Healing Anger Newsletter (skip to where the new issue starts) brings you a refreshing, helpful and upbeat approach to anger management and how it can work for you in every aspect of your life. Here is your chance to keep up with my (Dr. DeFoore here) latest discoveries and insights on anger management and how you can heal the anger in yourself, your family, your school and your workplace. If you like this ezine, please do a friend and me a big favor and "pay it forward" by forwarding it to them. If a friend did forward this to you and if you like what you read, please subscribe by visiting the Healing Anger Newsletter subscription page. This newsletter and the web site, AngerManagementResource.com were built and are maintained through a program called SiteBuildIt!, which is now offered as an eLearning course you can take from home! It's the best way I know of to deal with the economic stress that so many are facing right now. Find out how you can start your own successful Internet business by watching these great videos about why so many people love SiteBuildIt! Would you like to lend a helping hand? If you have purchased a book, CD or audio download, I would very much like to hear what you thought of your product! With your permission, I will publish your comments, with your name, on my web site to help other visitors like yourself learn more about the products. This would be a big help! Oh! By the way, did you get your free E-book? If so, after you've had a chance to read it and try some of the Anger Management Techniques, write to me and let me know what you think! July 1, 2009 Healing Anger Newsletter, Issue #014 Overcoming Anger Addiction Contents of this newsletter What's New on AngerManagementResource.com? How Do You Know If You Have Anger Addiction? What Causes Anger Addiction? How Do You Cure Anger Addiction? Make The Anger Stop once And FOR ALL!

What's new on the web site? Two new web pages, a scientific article, how to deal with panic attacks and mothers needing help--check them out! How To Deal With Angry People A totally new web page that helps you understand how angry people get so angry, and how you can deal with them when you need to. This includes some tips on dealing with angry people you happen to love. Free Anger Management Activities This new web page focuses on the benefit of writing your feelings, and outlines a journaling process that promises to help you feel better in every way. How Writing About Your Feelings Can Help You To Heal If you want a free, non-medical and easy way to heal from illness, or just get healthy, read this great article. Learn how you can activate your internal healing processes on your own, at home, or anywhere any time! Deal With Panic Attacks And Other Problems If you have panic or anxiety attacks, or are dealing with anger issues or addiction problems, you will find--this article to be very helpful. That page was submitted by a web visitor just like you! Comment on her story at the bottom of this page, or submit your own. Mothers Needing Help I have been very touched by the number of moms writing on my site, asking for help to be better parents to their children. Here is a story from a mom who is making some excellent progress, and this one is having quite a challenge, as you can see in her story entitled This Mother Needs Help. How Do You Know If You Have Anger Addiction? Great question to get us started. I'm glad you asked! Here is how the process seems to work: Something, inside you or in your life, is making you feel helpless and out of control. It might feel like there's a boiling volcano in your gut that is just waiting to explode--even though you might not know where it is coming from. Then something happens...it might be big or little, but it is just enough for you to blow up. And so you do have your blow up. You vent your anger, yell, scream, accuse, blame or even hit or throw things. Whether you know it or not, while you're having your blow up, you don't feel helpless and powerless any more. You're not happy by any means, but the anger feels better than the fear, anxiety and helplessness. That's your "rush" or "high" that creates the addiction. Next you go into guilt, apology or shame--which you may or may not express. Either way, you don't feel so good when the "high" of the anger rush wears off. Then, after a few days, weeks or even months, the old feelings of irritation, frustration, anxiety build up inside once again until you have another explosive release. The main thing to look for to know if you are addicted to anger or rage is repetitive patterns of getting angry, blaming, criticizing, etc. Other people are responsible for their actions, but you are responsible for your reactions--especially for your patterns. What Causes Anger Addiction? One thing about this newsletter and about the Anger Management Resource site in general...we get to the causes here, to Stop The Anger Once And FOR ALL! There are many different causes of anger addiction. Here are some of them: Severe or chronic abuse, neglect or abandonment. Being "spoiled" and given a false sense of self-importance in childhood. This is a less known and understood cause of anger issues, but it is a very powerful and common one. The sense of entitlement that comes from being favored and given special love and attention as a child can lead to a lot of anger when "the world" or the adult spouse does not "spoil" you the way your family of origin did. Another cause of anger addiction is being raised by parents who allowed you to become a "tyrant" as a child, teaching you that your anger is a way of getting what you want and stopping what you don't want. While there may be other causes of anger and rage addiction, I think these are the major three. How Do You Cure Anger Addiction? These are the steps to healing anger addiction, as I understand them after 37 years of helping people break the addictive cycle and create peace in their hearts: Explore your story--your life history, and identify all of the ways you've been hurt, abused, abandoned or neglected. Decide if you were spoiled or favored, or if you were allowed to control your family or friends with your anger. Write about these memories in great detail, until you can't think of another thing to say. This will help you a lot! Learn more about this type of anger management activity here. Identify all of the components of your own cycle of addiction, and write in detail about those. You may want to do this writing on this site. You may want to read one of these books or listen to some of these CDs to get the job done. Be sure to take advantage of all of the free anger management resources on this site! An interesing technique is to imagine yourself moving backwards through your addictive cycle. Do that over and over, until it starts to look and feel funny to you. If these techniques don't do the job, you probably need anger management counseling or, you might want to complete an anger management program. Never, ever give up on yourself. You can do this, because you're a good person with a good heart. Stay with it, and you will get there. Stop The Anger Once And FOR ALL! You wouldn't still be reading this if you weren't fed up with the anger and ready to stop it once and for all! Listen to Dr. DeFoore as he guides you through the process of letting go of anger, healing emotional wounds, and creating peace in your home and your heart. You can listen to a free preview of this enlightening and effective audio program now, which is available for immediate download. Remember, you are doing this for you, because you are a good person and you want your actions to match who you really are. Next Issue Healing Anger And Your Inner Child Getting To The Good Heart Of The Matter

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